It’s a new year. Time to put into practice the resolutions you made on New
Year’s Eve.
Contrary to popular belief, there is nothing magical about New Year’s Eve
that causes us to automatically change or transform like a child’s toy, into
a resolution achieving superhero. Any ‘magic’ you may have experienced
could be the magic of new beginnings and possibilities or simply the ‘Big
Fun’ and ‘Party - hardy’ atmosphere of New Year’s Eve, but
is that enough to pull you forward to achieve your resolutions? Probably not.

The Big Fun of New Year’s Eve
isn’t always conducive to
long term resolution success.
Although most resolutions revolve around behaviors to change, most of our behaviors
are directly linked to our attitudes and beliefs. Which, could mean if you do not
change your attitudes and beliefs, its darn hard to change your behaviors. There
are other attitude considerations when pursuing a resolution or making any attempts
at behavioral change in our lives.
First, take some time to reflect on past resolutions. Did you really want to succeed?
Or were you just surfing the resolution wave of New Years without considering what
you really wanted or what was truly important to you?
Do you continue to set the same resolution each year and then give up or forget
about it? Determine what you gain by staying the same. Is there an unrecognized
bonus in giving up? What would you lose if you did succeed? (It doesn’t have
to be logical or make sense for there to be an impact to your efforts).
Are you stymied by the first obstacle to your resolution or set back in accomplishing
your goal? Sometimes it can be helpful to consider possible problems that could
arise and how you will deal with them when you are still in the development phase
of a resolution or behavior change goal. Then, if something does happen, you can
stay in tune with your resolution while overcoming obstructions to your achievement.
It is also important to know just how serious or committed you are to the resolution.
Have you designed accountability into your resolution? Will there be consequences
for not reaching your resolution goal? Some of us must find the balance between
accountability and consequences to find the resolve necessary to achieve change.
Finally, the most vital attitude element of achieving your resolution is to recognize
the value of the promises you make to yourself. Simply put, your resolution is a
promise to yourself. Start small, if need be, to make sure you can achieve your
goal, thereby building success as reinforcement in your commitment to yourself.
Of course, the resolutions you choose and how you manage them can also influence
your success.
As when designing a household budget, make use of SMART goals to assist in achieving
your resolution. SMART goals must be specific, measurable, achievable, realistic,
and time framed. Going through the process to ensure your goal is ‘SMART’
can also help you focus your attention on the attitudes that may disrupt your efforts
to achieve your goal. You might even find that making multiple small resolutions
(focusing on the behaviors necessary to create the result you want) instead of one
big resolution (the actual result you want) may make accomplishing your resolutions
more manageable. Another advantage of making small resolutions is that you may find
less resistance to doing them, allowing you to build a history of success fairly
quickly.
Two more hints for successful resolutions to keep in mind. First, write them down.
If you have created a SMART goal for your resolution the best way to keep track
and be able to measure your progress is to write down your goal with checkpoints
along the way. Second, avoid resolutions or goals that revolve around not doing
something. A not doing resolution, like ‘quitting smoking’
or to ‘stop eating junk food’, by its very nature puts your total focus
on the thing you no longer want to do. It may seem like a small thing, but re-orienting
your resolution to ‘becoming smoke-free’ or ‘eating three servings
of fruits and vegetables a day’, can make a big difference with just a minor
change in perspective.